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Saturday, January 13, 2007

Sat, 13 Jan 2007 23:48:02 GMT

1. 因為對自己仍有目標，所以美好。
2. 因為對別人仍有要求，所以美好。
3. 因為對朋友仍有啟發，所以美好。
4. 因為對愛人仍有愛意，所以美好。
5. 因為對家人仍有溫暖，所以美好。
6. 因為對生活仍有執著，所以美好。
7. 因為對知識仍有渴求，所以美好。
8. 因為對生命仍有感受，所以美好。
9. 因為對未來仍有希望，所以美好。
10. 因為對一切仍有憧憬，所以美好。
11. 因為懂得面對順逆境，所以美好。
12. 因為懂得一切得來不易，所以美好。
13. 因為懂得滿足所擁有，所以美好。
14. 因為懂得活得快樂，所以美好。
15. 因為懂得享受，所以美好。
16. 因為懂得愈戰愈強，所以美好。
17. 因為懂得用有換取無限，所以美好。
18. 因為懂得用心做每一件事，所以美好。
19. 因為懂得愛惜生命，所以美好。
20. 因為懂得從經驗吸取教訓，所以美好。
21. 因為有溝通，所以美好。
22. 因為有貢獻，所以美好。
23. 因為有良知，所以美好。
24. 因為有個人風格，所以美好。
25. 因為有自信，所以美好。
26. 因為有愛心，所以美好。
27. 因為有包容，所以美好。
28. 因為有感覺，所以美好。
29. 因為有愛，所以美好。

*all credits to the anonymous... it's a beautiful passage.*

Thursday, February 23, 2006

Thu, 23 Feb 2006 03:16:10 GMT

I miss dancing... and skating... when can I bring my lazy ass and my 5kg skating shoes to Cville Ice Park? I have problem even bringing myself to the Mem Gym which is 3 minutes from my room... I need to get this laziness away!! (seriously...)

such a cuteeeeeeeee baby!!! she's like 6 months only ??!!! UNBELIEVABLY ADORABLE!!! I *heart* babies!! They make me cheerful!!! (sounds like i'm gonna eat them... i'm horrible!!)

siu-joy: It's okay, dun worry! Nei hor yee work soft, but ngor yiu work hard arrrrr!! >.< Nei parents gei si farn HK ar? Ju-ju lei sleepover? I know it's hard, you must be missing mui mui, but it's time for her to fly away lah!!! Nei bored jau online lah, ngor wui chat with u gah!! PLS be strong alrite? Ga Yau arrrrr~

Sunday, February 19, 2006

Sun, 19 Feb 2006 23:05:33 GMT

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~*~

Being Twenty Something

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are many things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.

You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met, and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones What you don't recognize is that they are realizing that too, and aren't really cold, catty, mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.

You look at your job... and it is not even close to what you thought you would be doing, or maybe you are looking for a job and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and that scares you.

Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and are constantly adding things to your list of what is acceptable and what isn't. One minute, you are insecure and then the next, secure.

You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.

You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you. Or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough that you want to get to know better. Or maybe you love someone but love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you know that you aren't a bad person.

One night stands and random hook ups start to look cheap. Getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over, and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision. You worry about loans, money, the future and making a life for yourself... and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!

What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.

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Saturday, January 14, 2006

Sat, 14 Jan 2006 18:02:27 GMT

edit* 1/22/06

吵架→是多認識對方....並且學會和好....

『通常願意留下來跟你爭吵的人，才是真正愛你的人。』

一直認為這是離我很遠的事情（雖然不是真的如此嚴重），終於你讓我體現到了！今天我跟你聊的，我會放在心裏的。很興奮．．．是一件感恩的事情哩！

*努力尋找自己中*

暫時不用comment 了‧．．

看見一篇很有意思的email... 多少有一點領悟，但要做到很難耶~~ (我這個人很難跟人吵架的啊 =.=|||)

> 重視你才會跟你吵
>
> 常常我們認為會跟一個人吵架一定是跟他感情不好，其實不然，
>
> 最容易跟家人吵架，最常跟情人吵架，最會跟好朋友吵架。
>
> 想想，原來最常跟我們有爭執的人竟然都是跟我們最親密的人，
>
> 而能夠跟我們發生爭執的人也對我們有一定的瞭解，
>
> 所以有人常說『吵架』也是一種溝通，而願意跟你吵架的人，
>
> 才是真正想瞭解你的人。
>
> 有時候我們與人發生爭執時會說『算了』，或者『不說了』，
>
> 這兩句話其實都是殺傷力很強的話，
>
> 代表著你不想把你的想法跟他說，不想讓對方瞭解你，
>
> 也代表你們的感情會停留在原地。
>
>
> 有時兩個人爭執，忽然聽到了一句話『我是為你好』；
>
> 在感情的世界裡，每個人都很自私，有人常會對你說『我是為你好』，
>
> 這其實是很不負責任的說法，因為我們會把自己的觀念加諸在別人身上，
>
> 為他人決定一些事，但是再想想，對對方來說，這種的方法真的好嗎？
>
> 你為他決定了事情，但是要負責的人卻是他，這是很不公平的，
>
> 唯有他自己才能決定什麼是對自己最好，
>
> 若是錯誤的決定也才不會有埋怨，也才能對自己負責。
>
> 『通常願意留下來跟你爭吵的人，才是真正愛你的人。』
>
> 之前聽到陶子在節目中說了一句話 ...『每個人天生就是不一樣』
>
> 這句話讓我領悟了很多事.............
>
> 。。因為不一樣。。
>
> 自然而然每個人所看的所想的也不會相同
>
> 不要怪別人不夠懂你
>
> 換個立場
>
> 其實我們也不敢說自己有多了解他人
>
> 『無聲.是一種無形的、最遠的距離』
>
> 若能從吵架中表達出自己的想法
>
> 總比大家把話悶在心裡都不說出來的好
>
> 有些話~一旦說出口~就很難收回了
>
>
>
> ♀聊天→是增進感情..... ♂
>
> ♀約會→是多一點共同的回憶.... ♂
>
> ♀吵架→是多認識對方....並且學會和好.... ♂
>
> ♀承諾→是證明這段感情要經得起考驗....　♂
>
> ♀努力→是代表妳真的很在乎.... ♂
>
> ♀感動→是因為被愛....一點一滴滑過心坎裡....！！！ ♂
>
> ♀付出→是因為愛不知怎麼給....不能不求回報..但也不苛求！ ♂
>
> ♀真心→是因為真愛不容易來臨,一但來,就該真誠地去握！！ ♂
>
> ♀痛苦→是絕對在乎的表現...沒有是很不尋常...有了又很苦！ ♂
>
> ♀自私→難免嘛 ~ 不然怎麼叫「最愛」！！！ ♂
>
> ♀珍惜→ㄟ...是因為怕失去....所以呵護著..視之為奇遇！ ♂
>
> ♀冷淡→是因為正在沉澱....可是不要沉過了頭嘍！！♂
>
> ♀思念→是因為心裡常常有著妳....這就是愛的魔力！！！ ♂
>
> ♀掛心→是因為很愛很愛著....心跟著心愛的人跑！！ ♂
>
> ♀溫柔→是要讓愛....表達的甜美....永難忘懷！！ ♂
>
> ♀三八→是愛情裡的小孩子氣的表現....很甜喔～～！ ♂
>
> ♀撒嬌→是想要多一點呵護及在乎 ~~ ♂
>
> ♀打情罵俏→讓生活過的甜蜜又有趣！！ ♂
>
> ♀重視→是絕對的愛情保障....沒有重視就沒有愛情！！ ♂
>
> ♀在乎→是為了要愛妳...心有所屬ㄇㄟ～～！ ♂
>
> ♀差別待遇→是要讓妳知道妳最重要..... ♂
>
> ♀信任→是感情維持最重要的ㄋ?...要一起努力做唷～！ ♂
>
> ♀多來往→是為了讓感情更穩定....也可以避免不必要的距離！ ♂
>
> ♀分享→是要讓對方多了解彼此....有助於維持感情喔～～！ ♂

我覺得任何感情都會出現以上的情況啦~ 不是只有愛情才如此的！其實也挺有同感的...

張X雯同學：我喜歡你那句「感恩，是因為沿途有祢你你你你你你你你你！」

getting back to my "working" mode~~ (it will definitely take some time...=.=)

*I watched Geisha, Harry Potter, Perhaps Love and King Kong!!! AND they were all GREAT movies! Go see them when you have time!*

Sunday, January 08, 2006

Sun, 08 Jan 2006 16:57:27 GMT

Belated Happy 2006 everyone!!!

I believe I really should bring myself to writing my xanga AND typing my chinese again, so here it is, a brief update of my life and my reflections...

這一個假期怎麼好像特別短暫似的? 可能是自己病了兩星期 (假期的一半)，時間變得特別的不好用... 無論如何，這個break總算是充實的吧！我認為自己實踐了很多我從前不曾做過的事哩！說這是Breakthrough 也不為過吧，很多以前認為不可能的事情都變得貼身而真實了! 信仰上，我有了新的觀點、也從而對自己的了解更深；許久沒見過的 LPC 跟 MSS 的朋友，帶回了久違的回憶，似曾相識的日子真的令人很懷念... 不知從何時開始，我忘記了你們是我多大的恩典，而我也忘記了如何去感恩。謝謝每一個在我身邊走過的朋友，MSS 的、LPC的、UVA的也好，什至是擦身而過的也好，你們一起建立了今天的Stephanie！我現在才發現，我是多麼的被 protected，同時，我在自己身上找到了你們的影子。 *filled with bliss*

雖然以下這一句說出來有D客套，又有D odd, 不過都還未算是太遲吧 ---
我很高興可以同你做朋友呀！(你肯定以為我 *short* 咗... =.= *hopelessly crazy*)

這個Winter Break，讓我學習到從前認為不可能的事情其實也不為然。這新的一年，我要讓自己變成一個「新造的人」。我要遵守我所定立的Promise!! 你們又有什麼新年願望呢？跟我分享好嗎？

一年後的countdown ，很期待...*another blissful moment*

*updating photos in progress... = "trying out different buttons" in progress.*

Sunday, October 02, 2005

Sun, 02 Oct 2005 04:47:16 GMT

this is totally hilarious... about the end of the world~
http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/end.php

Sunday, October 02, 2005

Sun, 02 Oct 2005 03:23:38 GMT

wakakaka~ i'm finally entering sth... n yet not actually anything~~ wakkaka!!

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It's from Uli, I like this a lot! (n i dun feel like saying anything either~ )

Sunday, May 29, 2005

Sun, 29 May 2005 15:18:19 GMT

http://hk.news.yahoo.com/050517/10/1cljl.html

http://wb11.trb.com/news/local/eveningnews/nyc-dead0514,0,6056995.story?coll=wpix-evening-news-1

http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=ToTo247

This is the first time that I want to update my xanga after my first year in UVA... this gave me a strong feeling, and PLS, pls pray for Simon and Sharon!

Sunday, May 08, 2005

Sun, 08 May 2005 06:33:05 GMT

The difference in a day... highlight: the TREE outside Mem Gym (from pink to brownish green)

*Thai Food (by Candice)/Afghan Food (by Sahar's Mom)*
(~ yum~)

*Sahar's Mom with lil French Julian/Julian tightly HELD ONTO by me/Julian's sis Alexandra with me*
(a nice family gathering~ u could possibly imagine, that it's a blissful moment~ )

*** some more reflections from tonight's gathering later... to give you a lil bit of hints, I went to our Afghanistan Sahar's home just now, and I got to know the story of a REAL AFGHANISTAN FAMILY, who came through all the struggles in war n terror to come to America for better education. Impressive! ***